With this being my second pregnancy, people often ask me if there’s anything different this time around. For the most part, no, there is not much difference between this pregnancy and my first. But I do have a different point of view with certain things and I’m choosing to make different choices to prepare for our little addition. I didn’t really have a pre-pregnancy bucket list before my first daughter, but I have come to realize that it’s very important to get some things done before a new child arrives. Let’s face it, you don’t get a lot of free time once a newborn comes into the picture. The addition of a second child is going to be another huge transition for our little family, so I thought it would be a good idea to write up my bucket list for this pregnancy.
We don’t want to call this a to-do list, because I just don’t know if I’ll have enough time to complete all the items in our time frame. With us trying to sell the house and move before our “deadline”, certain things might get pushed to the back burner, but I’m going to try my best to complete everything I can, Lord willing.
Spend plenty of one-on-one time with my daughter. With the addition of another child comes along the difficulties of balancing the needs of both the children. Obviously, I don’t want my daughter to feel like she’s being replaced, or that another child is taking precedent over her needs. I’m certain there’s going to be some things we just won’t be able to control or balance out. When you decide to have a second child, your time is destined to be divided between both your kids. So we are trying to spoil her a little bit and let her get lots of fun activities on the schedule in the next few months. I can’t help but sneak in all those extra little private snuggles and quiet mother/daughter times while I can. I’ll miss them when they’re gone.
Take Professional Maternity Photos I wasn’t very pleased with the effects that pregnancy had on my body (and self esteem) during my first pregnancy. I was afraid to gain weight and was self conscious about my expanding mid-section. As someone who struggled with her weight, pregnancy was a difficult transition for me to get used to, and I just didn’t want physical evidence of my uncomfortable stages back then.
This time, however, I have embraced the changes in my body. I can now enthusiastically take monthly bump pictures to track my progress without overanalyzing my figure.
I hadn’t really considered doing maternity pictures until my hubby asked if I wanted to do them. And after thinking about it, I really want to do it! Specifically, I am excited for the ones where my daughter can share in the event. Those will be treasured forever. <3
Sign Rossi up for Swim Lessons She is going to be three years old this fall (OMG, I can’t believe that), and it’s past due time for her to learn. Living in Florida, every other house has a pool and I will just feel more at ease once she masters that survival skill. Obviously, it would be best to teach her now before a new sibling complicates the process. I want to be able to give her my undivided attention during this phase, and since summer is 12 weeks away, now is a prime time to do so.
Potty Train Rossi Another skill that would put us at ease before summer time (and before our second is birthed) is the potty training phase. We’ve been making progress here and there, but it still isn’t a fully developed habit. She will have 2-3 good days, then exhibit a challenging behavior the following days. It’s been loads of fun (insert sarcasm here). Our objective is to have her out of diapers completely, before the arrival of a new diaper wearing babe.
Draft a Will This is pretty self explanatory. We have yet to complete our will. I’m sure there are plenty of people who don’t like to think about stuff like this, but if something should happen, I think our children deserve their parents to make the decisions about what should happen to them. It’s about that time for us. (Wow! I feel like I’m getting so old.)
Learn How to Sew This is one of my new year’s resolutions, and I don’t think I’ll ever get to it, if I don’t do it soon. The objective is to be capable to tackle more projects with the kids in mind. I’m talking about halloween costumes, Pinterest projects, making that quilt I’ve wanted to make, and all those missing buttons and unraveling hems that need tending to.
This is not a priority, but it’s definitely something I’d really like to do for myself, as a helpful mothering skill.
Take a Photography Class Before Rossi was born, we didn’t have a professional grade camera. We made the investment around the time of her first birthday and we were WOW’ed by the difference. There’s dozens of features and settings that I just don’t know anything about, so I read a couple how-to books for beginners, but now I really want a hands on class to soak in some more knowledge and put it to the test. The majority of my pictures are done with my iPhone, but I’d love to be capable of profession grade pictures for our family photo albums.
This list may sound a little frivolous to some, but to us, it’s a small investment of time and money into parts of our lives that make us feel relaxed and happy. It’s no big secret that having children is tough, so anything that gives you piece of mind and security in your efforts is worth the time and effort.
Did you have any bucket list items for your time before baby?